Sex and Relationship Therapy in Surrey

Pyschosexual and Relationship Therapy

Welcome to Sex Therapy Matters

A safe space for open, honest dialogue relating to all aspects of sex and relationships.

Proud to be all inclusive.

Sex and relationship therapy for individuals, couples and polycules.

GSRD -Gender Sexuality Relationship Diversity and LGBTQIAPOC+ friendly, Kink knowledgeable therapist

Thank you for visiting Sex Therapy Matters.

Sex Therapy Matters is run by Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Charlotte Burgess. Charlotte offers sex and relationship therapy across Surrey.

Charlotte offers face to face therapy from her office space in the Weybridge area of Surrey. Charlotte also offers online services via zoom.

By offering both services Charlotte can see clients from her area and beyond reaching a wider audience and span across the whole of the UK.

Sex Therapy Matters offers tailored therapy from a pluralistic framework meaning that all therapy is specifically customised to each individuals/couple’s needs. Sex Therapy Matters prides itself on being a place for everyone. Individuality and Diversity is at the forefront of the therapy offered.

Some of the presentations we work with are:

  • Erectile Dysfunction
  • Premature Ejaculation
  • Delayed Ejaculation
  • Anorgasmia (male & female)
  • Female Pain/pelvic pain
  • Low Desire
  • Vaginismus
  • Performance Anxiety
  • Intimate Partner Violence/Sexual Violence
  • Sexual orientation
  • LGBTQIA+ counselling
  • Compulsive Sexual Behaviours (“sex addiction and porn addiction”)
  • Shame
  • Kinks and Fetishes/sexual preferences
  • Sex Worker/Adult Entertainer Support
  • Trauma, Child Sexual Abuse, Sexual Trauma
  • Couples and Multiple partner work (polyamory)
  • Ethical Non-Monogamy/ Opening of Relationship
  • Infidelity
  • Separation/Divorce
  • Conflict Management
  • Intimacy Building
  • Mismatched Desire

And more!

How we work

Here at Sex Therapy Matters we offer an initial free 15-minute consultation via phone or preferably by videocall. This is a quick conversation with Charlotte where you can introduce yourselves to one another, get a feel for the dynamic between you, ask any burning questions and discuss any realistic goals of your work together.

This initial chat is time to get a feel for one another. Choosing a therapist is such a personal thing, we want you to feel positive about your choice. If this goes well then, we can discuss logistics.

Get in touch

We offer therapy on a weekly basis. Therapy thrives at a much higher rate if accessed weekly. We can accommodate meeting every two weeks as an alternative however anything outside a two weekly basis is not recommended as the longer the time between therapy sessions the more difficult it is to be consistent to work towards therapeutic goals.

Each weekly session will last 50 minutes for individuals. Both individuals and couples can request longer session times, this is something that can be discussed before the first session and factored into our contractual agreement.

The general consensus of therapy here is that we start with an open-ended contract to not put pressure on the process, this will then be continually monitored, and any ending will be discussed in good time of an agreed ending date. We do offer “time limited” therapy if this is more desired by the client.

Individual Therapy

  • 50 minutes per session
  • Longer sessions can be requested
    (80 minutes)
 (a maximum of 2 hours per any single session (100mins)

Couples Therapy

(Inclusive of polycules/multiple partnered relationships)
  • 50 minutes per session
    (80 minute session is advisable when having more than one person in the therapy space but is not mandatory. Please note: 80 minute sessions are a higher rate)
  • Longer sessions can be requested
    (maximum of 2 hours per any single session (100mins))
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Testimonials

  • “Charlotte immediately created a welcoming and completely non-judgemental environment in which we could talk honestly. The way she summarised and articulated our experiences back to us gave me a new perspective which helped me make sense of things that I previously couldn’t.

    She shared some excellent resources which helped us build physical connection.

    I felt very seen and acknowledged in Charlotte’s presence as she truly understood and empathised with my experiences, and as such she felt like a close friend”. 

  • “When I first enquired for help from Charlotte, I was extremely anxious and was in a position I did not think I could get out of. This is something that I had never experienced previously and so it became a huge shock to my body having physical and mental symptoms which I felt were out of my control.

    After having weekly sessions with Charlotte and providing complete transparency to how I was feeling, I began to build a relationship with Charlotte to which she showed great care but also challenged thoughts and stresses I presented with. Charlotte’s help has meant I have improved an incredible amount and she had aided me to develop myself into an ever-better person with a greater understanding of who I am.

    I can’t thank Charlotte anymore as she has picked me up whilst I was at my lowest and I cannot put into words how much this has impacted my life”.

  • “Charlotte is a wonderful therapist and helped me and a partner at a crucial time in our relationship. She was perceptive and insightful, helping me to better understand myself and my relationship.

    Throughout our sessions her compassion and understanding created a safe space for us both and her investment in us was more than we could have hoped for”. 

  • “I came to Charlotte having experienced continuous problems with ED following a loss of sexual confidence at the end of a long-term relationship and had multiple ‘failed’ sexual encounters.

    Through Charlotte’s help over a number of sessions of therapy, I was able to understand the source of my anxieties by speaking through my attitudes to sex and getting to the root cause of the mental blockage which was holding me back from enjoying a healthy sex life.

    Having worked with Charlotte, I couldn’t be more positive about her and her ability to untangle my anxieties. I’m so pleased I decided to seek help, I feel I have a much better understanding of myself as a person, and what I am looking for in a partner which has given me a huge boost of confidence and the ability to enjoy myself again.

    Thank you!”

  • “ When I first saw Charlotte’s photo I knew this was a friendly face that I could talk to and my gut instinct was correct.

    She has helped me to make sense of my experiences and to understand my needs. She has empowered me to look after myself better and make some positive changes and choices that have made me feel so much happier about myself.

    It has been a very supportive and affirming process that has taken into account my individual needs and circumstances in a non judgemental and liberating way”.

  • “After 20 years in a long term relationship I developed ED which had begun to destroy both my self- esteem and my marriage.

    I turned to Charlotte in desperation, I was sceptical of psychotherapy and humiliated at having to admit my problem to anyone else. However when it came to it, Charlotte made it easy and we quickly developed a rapport.

    Over a few months of searching conversations and practical exercises I recovered my “mojo”. My marriage is now in a really good place, I have learned much about myself and our sex life is mutually satisfying again. I can’t say I am completely cured but now I know how to manage the occasional “unreliable erection” and not let it spoil my confidence.

    I feel very lucky to have found such a good therapist.”

  • “I feel very lucky to have found Charlotte and Sex Therapy Matters when I did. It was such an eye opening and affirming experience and I truly felt that I was able to speak my truth and get the help and advice and deeper understanding of myself that I needed. Charlotte was always the most intuitive listener and speaker and I feel truly grateful for my sessions with her. It was such an uplifting experience that allowed me to feel more liberated in how I view my sexuality, my relationships – with myself and others”.

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